The Liebster Award

Liebster-Award-LargeYesterday I was over the moon to be nominated by Breakfast Club Mum for a Liebster Award and to be honest, I had no idea what it was.  After having a read of @brekkieclubmum’s post I was even more thrilled to have a chance to give readers a bit of an insight into me and it was great to read more about fellow bloggers who have been around far longer.

The Liebster Award is given from one blogger to another to find out more about new blogs and the people behind them.

And the rules are:

  • Thank the person who nominated you and post a link to their blog in your post.
  • Show the award on your blog or in your post.
  • Answer the 11 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
  • Write 11 random facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 5-11 bloggers that you feel deserve the award.
  • Create a list of new questions for your nominees to answer.

Once your blog is published, let your nominees know that they have been nominated and link them to your post for more details.

Here are my answers to @brekkieclubmum’s questions (and by the way her answer’s to Ellen’s questions 1, 4, 9 and 11 are the exact same one’s that I would have given!)

How would you sum up your blog in fewer than 10 words?

Sharing the struggles/joys of a working Mum of one.

How do you come up with blogging ideas?

Just by living life and realising that I have something I want to say.

Who is your secret celebrity crush?

Gabriel Macht from the U.S series Suits.

What has surprised you the most about the blogging world?

How much reach your posts can get, especially when you use other forms of social media such as Twitter.

What really annoys you?

Bad grammar and spelling.  Incompetence in the workplace – especially now I am far more intolerant and impatient since having my daughter.

What was the last purchase you made?

A food shop at the supermarket.  Dull as dishwater but I have splashed out on cauliflower cheese as an ‘extra’ side with tonight’s dinner.

Favourite joke?

taking-a-break-1483588-640x480What do you call an aardvark with a machine gun?  A well-aardvark.

You’ve just won the lottery. What do you do next?

Start crying when I realise we now have choices and I can work only because I want to and not because I have to.

Which superhero would you be and why?

Wonder Woman.  I had the outfit as a child, so it would only be right to achieve that pinnacle in adulthood.

How would your friends describe you in three words?

Crazy, strong, loyal.

What’s your weirdest obsession?

That I can obsess about anything.  A holiday, school choices, illness, development stages, books, console games, you name it. If I’m currently interested in it or have a decision to make, I will be researching it online or undertaking the activity to within an inch of its life (or mine).  I’ll miss meals for it – which DOES NOT come lightly.

11 random facts about me

  1. I’m 38 and had my daughter at 34 – later than planned
  2. I used to coach trampolining to children
  3. I cry at anything on tv that is remotely happy or sad
  4. I’m a bit of a petrolhead
  5. I graze on sweets and biscuits at work almost continuously
  6. I can’t bring myself to smell milk that may have gone off
  7. I have quite long toes – people have said I should have gloves rather than socks.  Gee, thanks.
  8. I wanted Angela Lansbury to be my Nan when I was growing up
  9. I’ve never quite got into The Sopranos, or Game of Thrones
  10. I’m part Danish
  11. I refuse to buy a kindle. I just love proper books.

Now here are my nominees for The Liebster Award:

Dads Do

Not a PTA Mum



Mommy Maneuvers

Here are my 11 questions:

  1. What did you last laugh at?
  2. What did you last cry at?
  3. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?
  4. What inspired you to start blogging?
  5. What is your favourite music genre?
  6. Where would be your ideal holiday destination?
  7. Crisps, chocolate, or neither?
  8. What was the last gift you received?
  9. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
  10. Where do you do the majority of your blogging?
  11. What is your favourite book genre?

Thanks again to Breakfast Club Mum for the nomination.  Check out her blog.  I love the post on Why working Mums make great leaders – it really strikes a chord.


5 things that get easier when your child turns 3

happy-child-1254255-639x520There are some things that do get easier once your child turns into the threenager.  Ok, some things get tougher – and I’ll come to that shortly.  For now though, here is some positive news.

  1.  You don’t need to carry copious changes of clothes, wipes, bibs anymore.  By 3, your son or daughter is getting much better with their fine motor skills and therefore can usually eat a standard dinner without getting too messy.  I’m still wary of spag bol, but most other foodstuffs are mess-free.
  2. They tell you what is wrong.  Rather than worry constantly about whether your child is ill or unhappy because they can’t speak, by 3 the extent of vocabulary is such that they will normally be able to tell you when they feel poorly or are hurting, or indeed, if they have pushed an object up their nose.
  3. Independence. By 3, your child is beginning to take a bit more control and can be trusted to be in a room (or preferably garden) without you being a metre or so away.  Their interest is expanding and they will trot around investigating things but this no longer involves the ‘I need to put this is my mouth to work out what it is’ activity. Cue less paranoid Mum. Note, still be careful of pens around walls and doors.
  4. Toileting.  Yes, finally, by 3 children are beginning to show desire to discard the nappy in favour of the potty or toilet.  This in itself is a mammoth achievement and one that means you no longer need to worry about whether the toddler is likely to let out something stinky whilst you are eating lunch, or whether the location that you are going to has sufficient baby-changing facilities. Your freedom has returned.
  5. More walking, less carrying.  The threenager is finally able to walk a fair distance without asking to be carried.  This is such a great feeling when your back, hip or shoulders no longer ache from having to carry your child all the way round the park, garden centre, shops etc. and you also don’t need to navigate through crowds with a buggy.

Now for the not so great things that threenagers bring.

  1. Defiance
  2. Rudeness
  3. Impromptu tantrums
  4. Night terrors
  5. Challenges with listening

However, the insatiable need for questioning, and the developing sense of humour can’t help but make me smile and forgive my own threenager daughter for her spirited nature. Overall this is a very enjoyable stage that needs to be embraced.


Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday

10 handy hints for the ‘don’t get it’ Dad

desperado-here-1507747-639x1342Here are 10 hints, statements, bits of advice for the Daddies that ‘don’t get it’.  You know who you are.  The Dads who actually did think that a new baby wouldn’t change much of their life, the Dads who have a set unwavering view on how it should be.  The Dads who seem to think that they are the only ones struggling with this new parenthood lark.

Based on what I’ve read, what I’ve experienced and what I’ve heard from friends, colleagues and acquaintances, here are some statements of truth that aren’t coming from the mouth of the rather crazy, incoherent Mother.  This is honesty and not nagging – sometimes we just need to tell it like it is.

We know that in the majority of cases you really do love your family with all your heart, it’s just that maybe you aren’t always right. A big ‘high five’ to the Dads who do ‘get it’ though! 🙂

  1.  When your wife/girlfriend/partner calls down to you for help in the evening, chances are, she could really do with some help.  She isn’t trying to deliberately ruin your evening of chilling with a beer, gaming, or watching the match. More likely is that your child has had a major vomiting episode, has had a poo-explosion or has a slight temperature.  During these times, Mums need support.
  2. If the child has been unwell during the night, it is usually not allowed for them to carry on as normal the following day.  Standard diarrhoea and/or vomiting is a nursery-exclusion for 48 hours from the last episode. Tough luck.
  3. A crying episode usually happens when a child is unhappy.  This could be for all manner of reasons, from hungry through to just feeling a little bit p*ssed off.  Hell, we all feel like that sometimes.  Telling your child to be quiet, or indeed, grow up, won’t help. They just need a bit of love and patience……..a lot of patience. Trust me.
  4. Women are all different, some love receiving romantic gestures like chocolates and flowers, some just like a cuddle (with no strings attached), some want you to just get out the house.  More than likely, the way to the Mother’s heart is to offer to  help with anything.  Anything. Unloading the dishwasher, making a cup of tea, taking the child for a drive in the car so Mummy can have a bath, are all far more likely to lead to some bedroom action than a box of reduced chocolates from the supermarket.
  5. Tights are not leggings.
  6. The slightly stained plain long-sleeved t-shirt should go under the pretty new t-shirt, not over it.  I know, usually the smaller vest is the under garment, but in this case, it’s the other way round.
  7. If you’ve been out and about all morning, are a little late for lunch, and your child is crying and whinging, it’s because you’ve been out and about and lunch is late.  Do not take this out on your child.  It isn’t their fault. It’s yours.
  8. If your child is climbing all over you whilst you’re watching tv and you keep having to tell them to be quiet or not lean on you, it’s likely to be because you’re watching some tv.  Turn it off and pay them some attention.
  9. When a young child knocks something off the table or spills their drink, it’s probably an accident.  Telling them to use their eyes, stop being so clumsy or generally just scolding them for the accident isn’t fair.  They have 18 years to learn how to be an adult.  Give them time to learn – it takes an age.
  10. When you feel like you’ve made an awful mistake becoming a parent as your life is just non-existent now, chances are the Mother has felt like that occasionally too.  She may not show it in front of her child, or you, but trust me, it is just as daddy-loves-me-1435409-639x577hard if not harder for her.

These years will pass like a flash, so take the rough with the smooth and enjoy this precious life you helped to create.